I’m engaged to be married! Plans are in effect and we are making all the necessary arrangements. What I like best is the friendship of someone who loves me so very much. We can laugh together, be serious, and experience spiritual moments side by side.
I attended a meeting out of interest a while ago about the importance of the family. The family is the basic unit of the church and something we care greatly about. One thing I got out of it that really stuck with me is the phrase “marriage is a collaboration".
I always tended to get stuck on the compromise part. Often people that are like me are afraid of married life because it requires compromise. They worry it will change them and their life goals and truth be told it probably will. But something many people don’t realize is it’s the giving birth of a new creation. You are no longer, one and one, but two working together. The beauty in compromise is we grow closer together as we make those decisions. We acknowledge our faults and recognizing the virtue in others as we strengthen the relationship. The great thing about collaboration is it’s the coming together of soul, heart, and mind.
By already living a Gospel centered life we are used to changing. The whole purpose of the atonement and Christ’s mission in life was to give us the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and start over with a fresh slate. Christ is making us into something new.
There is a story of a marble statue that is beautiful and people come from miles around to admire it. The marble floor, however, goes unnoticed and starts to resent the statue. One night, once everyone is gone, the floor says “It’s unfair that you get all this attention and I don’t! We are made from the same material”. The statue wisely responds “that is true my friend, but I was carved and shaped this way while you resisted the Makers touch".
Life to me is like that. We are made to grow and change and be different. We can go through hard times happily or resentfully but either way, we will go through them. I feel like with Curtis I have found someone who will make the journey an adventure. We are just starting out and have lots to learn, but it is fun. A phrase we often hear in the church is “heaven is a continuation of the ideal home”. As two people come together as one, and husbands and wives love each other and care for one another, we can feel that joy throughout our lives.