Thursday, 18 May 2017

Intrinsic Goodness

When a young lady was asked what it was that drew her to the man she married she replied: “It was his intrinsic goodness.”

It struck me that goodness is an often overlooked quality trait. Often we chase things that don’t exist or don't matter. We search for happiness in the wrong places and ask ourselves why we can’t ever find it. On the flip side, if we start with the things that really do matter we find we have created the life of happiness that we were seeking.

To be good is more than to be kind. People may be politely respectful to others without emotionally connecting. This type of kindness creates a façade of civility but in fact isolates them emotionally. Goodness is more than just tolerating things that don't create pain, embarrassment or discomfort in others. True goodness is the ability to have integrity under all circumstances. It is something that is long-lasting and all encompassing.

Have you ever met someone who was really good?

They radiate a type of warmth and light that makes you want to draw nearer and spend more time with them. Goodness is a soft power that can change hearts and minds. Goodness is created step by step. We add those things that make life beautiful and throw away those things that make life bitter, mean and petty. This refining process takes the original “you” and makes you into something better. The greatest part is that we are all fundamentally good.

Nelson Mandela wisely said “No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite" (Long Walk to Freedom, 1994).

By seeking out those that are intrinsically good and being that type of person. We are adding to the strength of our society and creating the foundation for more tolerance and understanding. This is not a major leap, though it may feel that way, but a decision that grows in small increments until its impact is felt far and wide.

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